Feeding freely for the whole family: The importance of breastfeeding-friendly spaces
Parents don’t owe anyone an apology when feeding their babies. Full stop. Breastfeeding is a fundamental part of life, and families deserve to feel supported and welcome wherever they go.
Yet, for many parents, finding a safe and affirming public space to breastfeed can feel like an uphill battle. This isn’t just about being able to nurse comfortably in a restaurant or park — it’s about creating a society where all families are fully embraced and their needs are respected.
When we ensure that public spaces are affirming for breastfeeding, we’re sending a powerful message that families belong in shared spaces, and they don’t need to hide or hesitate to care for their children.
Public breastfeeding deserves acceptance, not judgment
There are numerous stories of parents being asked to leave or “cover up” while feeding their baby in public spaces. There are parents who, in the middle of feeding their hungry infant, have been told to take their baby to the restroom because their act of caregiving was deemed inappropriate for others to witness. These moments can feel deeply isolating and demoralizing, making families question whether they belong in public spaces at all, at a time when support and inclusion are needed most.
Creating affirming public spaces for breastfeeding is crucial for families during one of the most vulnerable times of their lives. When restaurants and other public venues have welcoming environments for breastfeeding, they are doing more than simply accommodating a parent and child — they’re declaring that families deserve to participate in public life without shame and to be treated with dignity. Being able to simply feed one’s baby in public without fear of judgment or exclusion should not be a privilege — it’s a basic right.
Community support: The key to how to breastfeed in public (without shame)
When parents can feed their children freely, they feel more connected to their communities and less isolated in their parenting journey. Beyond easing the challenges of breastfeeding, this creates a culture where families are fully integrated into public spaces. When we foster these connections, we build communities that support the health and well-being of both parents and children.
Yet, in many parts of the world, including the U.S., public breastfeeding remains culturally controversial, adding unnecessary strain and shame to an already delicate period of life. Contrast this with many European countries, where breastfeeding in public is seen as a normal, natural act, rather than something to be hidden. And in many places across the world, it’s common to see women nursing their children in parks, cafés, or on public transportation, without a second glance from anyone. In these cultures, the act of feeding a baby isn’t sexualized or stigmatized; it’s recognized for what it is — an essential part of raising a child.
The benefits of socially integrated breastfeeding
Connection and community are essential to the well-being of not just the baby, but the entire family unit. Studies show that parents who feel connected and supported in their communities experience lower levels of stress and a greater sense of confidence in their parenting roles. In fact, a strong social network positively influences both the emotional and physical health of parents and their children, leading to healthier family dynamics and improved long-term outcomes for the child.
Based on these findings, we know that parents who are surrounded by inclusive, supportive communities are more likely to thrive both in their private lives and in public spaces — whether in parks, restaurants, or shopping centers — where breastfeeding and family caregiving should be treated with the respect and acceptance they deserve.
One of the best ways for families to get the breastfeeding support they need is to connect with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). These highly credentialed professionals offer individualized strategies to enable you to have a confident and empowered breastfeeding experience. An IBCLC can educate, encourage and guide families throughout the journey they navigate with breastfeeding. They work alongside the family to ensure parents feel confident knowing their rights on a state and federal level and feel empowered to breastfeed wherever they are. Find support you deserve throughout your breastfeeding journey with a highly skilled IBCLC at The Lactation Network.
We’re here for you, every step of the way. We work with your insurance to provide in-home, in-office, or telehealth visits with an IBCLC.
