13 Signs of post-weaning depression
Whether weaning was planned or unexpected, it’s a big transition, physically, hormonally, and emotionally. And while most people expect weaning to feel like relief, that’s not always the case. If you’re feeling off: sad, anxious, unmotivated, or emotionally numb, you’re not alone.
Post-weaning depression (PWD) is a very real and common experience. Despite this, it remains one of the least discussed aspects of postpartum mental health. While awareness of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs) like postpartum depression is growing, the emotional challenges some parents face after they stop breastfeeding or pumping often go unrecognized (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention [CDC], 2023; Postpartum Support International, 2024).
At The Lactation Network, we know weaning can take a toll — physically, emotionally, and in ways that often go unspoken. If you’re finding this stage difficult, there’s support available. Read on to learn more.
What is post-weaning depression?
Post-weaning depression refers to a cluster of emotional and sometimes physical symptoms that may arise after a parent stops breastfeeding or pumping. These symptoms usually appear shortly after weaning or develop weeks to months later, particularly when the weaning process is abrupt, unexpected, or emotionally complex (Sriraman, 2017).
The exact causes are not fully understood, but the hormonal shifts — particularly the drop in prolactin and oxytocin, which play a role in mood regulation and bonding — may contribute to mood instability and emotional changes post-weaning (Sriraman, 2017; Hale & Rowe, 2022). These changes can be compounded by the emotional meaning we attach to the end of breastfeeding: Identity shifts, loss of routine, changes in bonding, and feelings of grief or failure (La Leche League International, n.d.).
Signs of post-weaning depression
While each person’s experience is unique, here are common symptoms that may indicate you’re dealing with post-weaning depression (Mayo Clinic, 2023; Postpartum Support International, 2024):
Emotional symptoms
- Persistent sadness or tearfulness
- Anxiety or increased worry
- Mood swings or emotional numbness
- Irritability or restlessness
- Feelings of guilt, grief, or loss about weaning
Cognitive changes
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Racing thoughts or intrusive worries
- Feeling overwhelmed or mentally foggy
Physical & behavioral shifts
- Trouble sleeping (even when the baby sleeps)
- Changes in appetite
- Low energy or chronic fatigue
- Disinterest in usual activities
- Withdrawing from social contact or support
If these symptoms persist or interfere with your daily life, it’s essential to talk with a licensed mental health provider or your primary care physician or OB-GYN. Post-weaning depression is not just a “phase,” and support is available.
Where to go for help
Mental health professionals, such as therapists, psychiatrists, or maternal mental health specialists, are the most qualified providers to assess and treat post-weaning depression. If you’re not sure where to start, talk to your OB-GYN, midwife, or primary care provider. You can also contact organizations such as:
- Postpartum Support International (PSI) — Free helpline and therapist directory (Postpartum Support International, 2024)
- The National Maternal Mental Health Hotline — 1-833-9-HELP4MOMS (CDC, 2023)
The role of IBCLCs in the weaning process
While International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are not mental health providers, they can be valuable partners during weaning. Their role is to:
- Provide guidance on how to wean safely and gradually
- Offer emotional validation for feelings that come up around ending breastfeeding
- Help identify when a parent may need a referral to a mental health specialist (Postpartum Support International, 2024)
If you’re already working with an IBCLC, they can support your feeding transition and connect you with helpful resources. But it’s important to know that IBCLCs do not diagnose or treat post-weaning depression.
Final thoughts
Weaning can stir up more than just physical changes — it can touch parts of your identity, your routine, your relationship with your baby, and your sense of self. That kind of shift deserves care and attention.
If you’re struggling in the wake of this transition, reaching out to a licensed mental health provider can be a meaningful first step toward feeling like yourself again. You don’t have to go through it alone.
References
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2023). Mental health conditions: PMADs.
https://www.cdc.gov
Hale, T. W., & Rowe, H. E. (2022). Medications and mothers’ milk (19th ed.). Springer Publishing Company.
La Leche League International. (n.d.). Emotional aspects of weaning.
https://www.llli.org
Mayo Clinic. (2023). Weaning: Tips for easing the transition.
https://www.mayoclinic.org
Postpartum Support International. (2024). Mental health help for moms.
https://www.postpartum.net
Sriraman, N. K. (2017). Postpartum depression: What nurses need to know. MCN The American Journal of Maternal Child Nursing, 42(1), 28–34.
https://doi.org/10.1097/NMC.0000000000000303
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